20 Ways To Help Your Husband

I find myself getting confused…

Everything about this world we live in is topsy-turvy.  I listen to closely to what the world whispers and find myself thinking that my husband isn’t helping me enough.  I feel overwhelmed and lost and have skewed expectations about what a woman and man’s role really is.    You see, it is the woman’s role to help her husband and not the other way around.  When I contemplate it, my role as wife and mother seems so much easier than his.  He must love me like Christ loved the church.  We all know how much Christ loved us, He gave up His very life for us so that we might have eternal life!

Which mandate would you rather have?

If it is your desire to help your husband then start off by communicating this with him.  Ask your man to tell you (you may want to write this down), what are the top 10 ways you can help him?  Ask your husband for his prayer requests and ask him what annoys him.  Understand that you are not perfect but you can definitely ask God to help you improve in some ways.  *Remember this conversation is not about your inadequacies as a wife and mother.  It is about your marriage and how you can serve and please God as your role as helpmeet to your husband.

Here is some encouragement for you…

20 WAYS TO HELP YOUR HUSBAND 

1. Pray daily for your husband.
2. Never complain about your husband to other women.
3. Keep to the budget.
4. Set up or set out materials for daily family devotions.
5. Make God, your husband, children, and home your top priorities.
6. Keep a neat home.
7. Save money in every endeavor.
8. Initiate sex from time to time.
9. Know and understand your husband’s love language.
10. Keep your home organized so it will run smoother.
11. Make a commitment to consistently speak about your husband’s good qualities.
12. Teach your children to follow wholeheartedly after Jesus Christ.
13. Don’t ask for things he can’t provide.
14. Find a way to supplement your income from home.
15. Cook healthy, nutritious and delicious meals.
16. Keep up with the laundry. 🙂
17. Show respect to your husband in front of your children and family members, even if you think he does not deserve it.
18. Set aside 15 minutes every single day to focus on your husband.
19. Make his lunch.
20. Make your home a refuge, where your husband, children, family, and friends can find peace.

Your list will look different.  The first step is to talk with your husband and find out where he needs help.  This list is based on what I do to help my husband.  Lest you are tempted to think that after 27 years of marriage I have the “helpmeet thing”  altogether…I don’t.  I  am still praying and learning how to be a good helper to my beloved husband.  The things he needs help with are ever changing so keep asking your spouse what he needs from you.

YOUR TURN…

How do you help your husband?

Blessings,