3 Life Changing Marriage Tips

Are you feeling discouraged in your marriage, losing hope?  Here are 3 Life-Changing Marriage Tips that will get you back on track.

Marriage can be a beautiful thing.  It can also be fraught with pain and suffering.  So, what makes a good marriage or even a great one?  I have concluded after much prayer that I can boil it down to 3 critical areas. The 3 C’s of Marriage.   These 3 marriage tips will encourage you and your husband to stay the course.

I have had plenty of time to think about what makes a marriage work and what doesn’t over the last 26 years. It is still hard to believe that my husband and I have been married that long! It is true though, six kids later and some gray hair on each of us is proof enough.  I consider myself to have a very fulfilling and loving marriage. I would even say Michael and I have a great marriage.  I have concluded after much prayer that I can boil it down to 3 critical areas.

Before writing this post I asked myself the following questions…

What did it take to get here?

What did we do that other couples didn’t?

What has helped us make it through the dark days of marriage?

3 Life-Changing Marriage Tips

1. Commitment

If you imagine the 3 C’s of Marriage as a triangle with the base of the triangle being the commitment, it will give you a picture of why this quality must be the foundation of every successful marriage.

When a man and a woman make a promise to God that they will be faithful to each other in sickness and health, for better or worse, and in good times and bad, they make a promise to each other and God. They have willingly formed a holy covenant between the two of them and a Holy God. The foundation of the commitment of marriage is the belief that the bride and groom are entering into something with much more purpose than romantic love.  Christ is the focus of a healthy and long marriage! 

2. Communication

Yikes, this one is hard! You would think that after 26 years of marriage we would have this characteristic of a successful marriage down. We don’t and we still often struggle in this area.

In researching for this post, I found that many counselors both Christian and secular believe the #1 reason for divorce is the lack of good communication, dethroning the prior #1 reason of infidelity.

I like what Miriam-Webster had to say about communication in Webster’s 1828 dictionary: “Communication is the act of imparting, conferring, or delivering, from one to another; as the communication of knowledge, opinions, and facts or the intercourse by words, letters or messages; interchange of thoughts or opinions, by conference or other means.” There are many types of communication, verbal, facial expressions, physical touch, and tone of voice to name only a few!

3. Chuckling

This was a hard decision but in the end, I chose chuckle as one of the 3 C’s of Marriage. My husband Michael’s ability to make me laugh has literally saved us from hundreds of potential arguments, diffused hurt feelings, and enabled me to laugh at myself or reversely enabled him to laugh at himself.

The Bible says in Proverbs 17:22 that a joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. I wholeheartedly believe this is the truth. Just think about it for a minute. Remember another truth. Your feelings are not always the truth. Don’t take yourself or this life too seriously. Laugh a little!

My prayer for each one of you is that you will spend time today thinking about how you can make three little changes in your life that will help you in fulfilling The 3 C’s of Marriage.

YOUR TURN…

What are you doing in your marriage to grow it in the areas of Commitment, Communication, and Chuckling?

Blessings,