Janelle Esker Don’t lose HOPE! I’ve been married for 30 years, please use this one simple tip to make your marriage happy.
Our minds and heart are funny things.
We can change our minds with each and every thought we hear or events we experience. Our emotions are not necessarily the TRUTH. Follow your heart is not good advice. We know from the Bible that the heart is bound up in foolishness. I can give real-life credence to that truth. I do not have to go any further than my own mind and heart to realize that I can be quite foolish.
It is with those truths in mind that I give you my simple tip to make a marriage happy. It is a simple tip. However, I will warn you that it is not so easy to put into practice. It will take prayer and much willpower. You will have to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. I do promise you it will be worth the effort!
Think the best about your spouse…
In other words, always give your husband the benefit of the doubt. Now, here is the kicker! Give your husband the benefit of the doubt even when you don’t think he deserves it.
For example, if you are in a situation where you feel betrayed, forgotten, or ignored. Remember to give your husband the benefit of the doubt. I can guarantee you do not know all the reasons behind his actions.
Instead of becoming angry and hurt try to understand why he is behaving the way he is? Is he under stress? Is he not feeling well? Thinking about these questions will cause you to approach your husband in a caring manner that will increase the chances of good communication between both of you. After all, good communication is hard to achieve but it is still the goal.
Each one of us is in charge of how we feel. I know, I know this is not what you want to hear…
You can choose to be bitter or forgiving.
You can choose to be angry or understanding.
You can choose to be HAPPY!
My prayer is for you and me, that we will choose to make our marriage a happy one!
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YOUR TURN…
What marriage tip do you have for making your marriage a happy one?
Blessings,
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Oh, how right you are about feelings not being facts and that we actually even have a choice when it comes to our feelings sometimes. I know this is one of those I have to remind myself of at times, and will even say out loud when I know I am or might be a bit too emotional about something. Being cognizant of one’s feelings and emotions within a relationship is so important because well, frankly, there’s another person to consider and not just ourselves. 🙂
Such words of wisdom you have written! I just LOVE that you say the truth out loud! Spoken word is so powerful. Thank you for taking the time to comment!
Not to be redundant, but I often cite John Hopler as having given some of the best marriage advice from Romans 7:22 – you know, the section where Paul is talking about not doing what he wants to do and doing what he doesn’t want to do… – “For in my inner being, I delight in God’s law” – that is to say, in my heart of hearts, I want to do what is right. Now here is the trick – believe that about your spouse – just like Janelle suggests! Miss you guys!
Thank you Jeff! I really appreciate you taking the time to post…and of course I totally agree:)
Oh I so really needed to hear this at a moment when I was feeling so overwhelmed with the burden of being married. Thanks you for sharing this. God bless.
I am so thankful this helped Mandira!
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Thank you so much for your encouragement and I’m so glad you found The Peaceful Haven helpful!